No matter how much I try, how many resumes I put out, how much time I ultimately waste at interviews, nobody will hire me. For most jobs they day I'm overqualified, others won't give any feedback.

Well now I'm homeless, destitute and devastated. Jealous of everyone who"s gainfully employed and compare myself to them. I don't know what to do at this point. I would have ended my life already if there wasn't the chance of a crippled survival. I hate my life more than words can say. If somebody would just hire me, everything would be alright

working in this environment is a very big challenge, I learnt lesson that people differ in there personality

So I’m on this job board for the last 2 1/2 months, reading the advice of many people and providing my own. Lessons I’ve learned over the years and using those lessons to keep moving forward. Reading other peoples advice and reading my own after posting gives me strength and courage to face what’s ahead, I hope all of you that do the same it does provide some kind of benefit. For as stronger and wiser i have become over the years, it’s natural to experience emotional flare ups after a traumatic event.

I was with the company for 12 years. When I first started, I was nervous and laser like focus to do well and work hard. Over time, I got to know a lot of people and received many accolades for my hard work and dedication, which even provided me to promotions within a short time frame. Senior leader ship, executive leader ship, everyone up and down the line got to know who I am and respected me very much. It felt fantastic to have these friendships and I always walked around with a smile I’m always trying to help people. The workload was intense, there are many times over the years that complain to my wife about it but I always push through and I got it done, no matter what the cost. At that time I used to take my work home with me, opening my laptop at the dinner table and continuing to respond to emails, working over the weekend and working while I was away and vacation. I became a workaholic. I became so wrapped up in my career, that I let it consume my life. I’m grateful that I have been able to spend some time with my wife and children, but looking back I wish I could’ve spent more with them.

Management changed three times of the 12 years, and each time it changed expectations changed, but one thing that was consistent was employee burn out. It’s just way too much for the size Steph we have on the teams. Everyone was stretched pen and pulled in 16 different directions constantly. They were people that were miserable and stayed, some left, even some got sick and had to go on disability. Noticing lack of support from leadership, little to no training from my positions and for the new text coming in, I started to burn out as well. I tried desperately to change my way of thinking, I started taking more and more vacation time hoping this would work. I stopped working at home and I stopped working on vacation. I still worked late nights, but over time I started leaving earlier and earlier. I knew I wanted to leave the company, but I was afraid to as I was making a good salary, I was promoted twice, I knew so many people and the locations of the departments, it was all very comfortable.

In third wave of management, they made a lot of changes and several people were let go. I happened to notice it was people that were older, in their positions for a long time or in the company for a long time, making a very good salary, etc. you know where I’m going with this. I realized from late last year that my head was going on the chopping block next. I should have started looking for something much sooner and harder, but I didn’t. I casually started looking at jobs outside of my work, over the years I even applied to eight or nine positions over a span of a few years within my company, but nothing panned out and I got no help from my management or HR. In the first six months of this year, I was triple teamed and they played all kind of psychological games with me, my director lying right to my face and making up stories, they were slowly emotionally and psychologically beating me down to the point where I couldn’t function anymore. In June, my career was terminated with this company.

I was very fortunate to find you a job within 30 days, it was a consultant and it took me a while to adjust. It was a polar opposite of my last job, it was so slow I was bored out of my mind. The dress code was so laid-back I found it unprofessional. I had to make up my own work and wanted to stay busy. It was so quiet, I’m not exaggerating I could literally hear the seconds hand moving on the wall clock. In the meantime, I have gone to a job fair two weeks before I was terminated, with a company that I was working with while at my last company. I spoke to the VP said he was going to look into getting a position approved for me that was being created. Once again I was very fortunate and was provided a job offer with this company for the same position. As in waited as I should’ve been, they offered me a salary much less than I expected. I wanted to walk away right then and there and discussed and disappointment. I had applied to a little over 50 companies with some responses, if you were phone interviews and less than a handful of second interview opportunities. I had nothing else to fall back on, the consultant position wasn’t going full time anytime soon and I didn’t know when it will end. I felt like I had no choice but to except it.

I am now with this company two weeks, they are training me and have provided me a lot of overtime. VP called me to his office for follow-up and told me he didn’t want me to feel overwhelmed and take them to log on me, but it was only to show me an overview of how they do in business. He explained everything else would come slowly and they would probably give me more responsibility over time. Although I felt better after talking to him, I can’t help but think why did he say this to me? Did I look overwhelmed concerned? Are they deathly afraid of losing me and need to fill this role desperately?

Over the last 2 1/2 to 3 months, I have felt like I’ve been floating in June, anxiety levels rising and falling, going through a mixed bag of emotions including rage, anger, frustration, sadness, depression, fear and trying to stay positive this entire time. I truly feel like I’m going through post dramatic stress disorder. Maybe I’m not realizing how huge this is, maybe my brain is making it huge. Approaching 50, my wife and my therapist both said as you get older, you do become more aware of things and have a heightened sensitivity. Things like this wouldn’t have bothered me when I was younger. As I spend more time with this company, I am slowly starting to feel better. There are times when I’m perfectly fine and I feel very confident, there are the times where I am fearful and worried and feel like I’m floating in the dream, afraid of getting fired again, afraid of getting burnt out, afraid if I’m going to like this company and its people. I feel like a nervous little mouse and that is not my character.

I am very thankfulfind work so quickly after this happened, but I feel like I didn’t give myself a chance to take off some time and just relax. There are days that I don’t want to work, I don’t want to do anything except sleep and lounge around in my sweatpants. But then I feel financial pressures of having to pay bills. My wife is an extremely understanding person and does not drive expectations like that, she is very understanding and is being very supportive.

I would please like to hear from each of you your experiences and if you can relate, as well as your advice which I’m always willing to listen to. I apologize for the very long winded post, however it is therapeutic, it’s full transparency so you can know what goes on in another person‘s head and I am being very open with all of you. I know that all of us have our crosses to bear, and I will continue to be as supportive as I can for each of you. God bless.

I took the time to gather a series of resources for people on the job search. This will be a long read. If you are serious about finding a new job, this post is for you. For readability, it will be broken up into three parts of the job search - prepping for the job search, the job search, and the interview/hiring process. Feel free to follow the Jobcasers linked within - they are awesome people with great advice who can help you!

PREPARING FOR THE SEARCH

Patrick Coppedge 's post Make Sure You Have A Job Search Strategy is a great place to start. Before your search, you should sit down and examine what your goals are - besides finding a job. It will help make the process faster, and easier.

Patrick Coppedge 's post Your Resume May Need To Lose Weight is also a great checklist for going through your resume, and ensuring that it gives employers your best impression!

Ashley Wilson ’s post Your resume has gaps! is a good resource for fixing any resume gaps you may have before you start sending out your resume.

THE JOB SEARCH

Anthony Harrington ’s post Situational Depression and the Job Search touches upon the necessity of taking care of yourself during job search, how to do it, and how it will help you.

My post What they mean by ‘Overqualified’ will help translate what an employer means when they tell you that you are overqualified. Knowing what they really man will aid you in alleviating those concerns for them or for another employer and get you hired!

Ashley Wilson 's post DON’T let your resume fall through the cracks!! will help your resume get through applicant tracking systems (ATS) that employers may be using for online applications. You have a better chance at the job once it gets through and onto the hiring manager’s desk!

THE INTERVIEW/HIRING PROCESS

My post You should ALWAYS follow up an application!! gives you the best way to follow up job applications - from what you should say to how long you should wait.

Anthony Harrington 's post "Won’t Pay Me My Worth” discusses the issue of compensation, and understanding your fair market value for the job you applied for!

Veronica Jefferson ’s post Cred Checks Employment or No Employment - The 411 goes over why companies will perform credit checks on candidates for jobs they are hiring for, and what you can do to pass them in the future.

Best of luck with your job search! I sincerely hope this has helped you, and provides valuable information to help you land that dream job. Feel free to reach out to anyone in this list for more help, or comment below if you have any questions!

My biggest challenge I overcame was learning to put in an emergency cathihiter.

I DO NOT LIKE STRESS WITH ANY JOB!!

Injustice is like a turmoil eating you gradually from inside and outside.The reason is this when I always tried to help my co-workers.I am so stressed out that I cannot sleep whole night.How will I get out this real stressful situation?

I frankly applied in every work or job. But then when I click that site, my inner mind is always playing around.. how can I rid of all that .how can I even rid my shyness and unconfidence.. I know that I'm not that fluent talking / speaking in English. :(

I have to let my emotions go, especially in the place of employment. I can only control my attitude and actions.I only want to compete with myself and be better than I was yesterday. And serve my job with a big dose of integrity each time I work. Knowing that me and the days to follow aren't always gonna be perfect.

There is always some kind of stress on the job due to deadlines, personalities, organizational changes, new requirements etc. But don't overreact. Take time to think, and collect yourself before reacting. Ask, how can this serve me in a positive way....what can I learn from this experience and allow it to add to my skill, capabilities and character.