I felt very confident in my last job but it got too much and I couldn't go on.

I have an interview for a position doing something very near and dear to my heart. I'm worried that my nerves will get the better of me. Any advice?

This indeed has been 1 of the most interesting but also frustrating years thus far when it comes to getting a job... that STICKS !!! Hit n miss on all the others grrr !!! Just not many good opportunities around here !!! I am certain I WILL find 1 but it's like finding a VERY small needle in this haystack of a town ... I'm usually full of optimism n I STILL have faith in the great known BUT the sooner the better is all I'm saying.

I too am 57 yrs old, but I don’t look it. I look 42. I’ve had many jobs ( part time jobs that resulted from seasonal to company buy outs where it only lasted a couple of months. I’ve done retail most of my life but I’m finding that I’m applying in my city for every retail job but I’m not getting any call backs. I do the assessment tests but I don’t pass them. I’m getting frustrated to say the least. I’ve been looking 5 months so far. I’m really getting depressed. I’ve gone in to one store put my application in 6 times. I’m Having trouble eating and I’m depressed. Any body else in this sinking boat ?

I have been experiencing anxiety and stress due to unemployed! How do I survive?

You can have all the talent you think you have, but with a bad attitude, you'll never achieve your highest potential in life. You can not lead others with a bad attitude . you can not win with bad attitude. Attitude is how you look at every situatuon you encounter. Every adversity you face. Your attitude is the reflection of your mindset. Ex: a bad attitude stresses you out when stuck in traffic..blaming others why your late..or keeping you from your home...but a great attitude sees the time in car as extra time to listen to your favorite music, clearing your mind from the stress from work, or time to think on your next massive action you're going to take to change your life for the positive. Time to breathe. Catch up on calls to friends. Or simply YOUR alone. Yeahhhh... Before you get mad, or stressed out, or feel like having a bad attitude, think on the positive for every situation, and how your great attitude can shift the mood to happy...you may even make another person's day.

Many have posted on this website the fact that they need a job like yesterday and I want to remind you that job searching takes time. There are 3 key components necessary when for you to succeed with your job search efforts.

1. Know your worth/value. What do you bring to the table? So many of us are remain focused on I need a job instead of work on effectively communicating what you bring to the table. How can you help the company you applying for. 2)Put in Time. Waking up early Sunday or Monday and blindly applying to any open position, sending out a few linked in invitations, and telling friends and family that you need a job hoping they will call you back with a job lead by the end of the week is not job searching. Job search consist of carving out 10 to 15 hours each week to invest in your future. Because that’s what it is: an investment. Your first big job search sets the stage for future decades of work experiences. So shift your mindset about the job search. It’s not just an annoyance on your to-do list; it’s critical for future success and happiness. 3)Manager your fears. The fact that you are unemployed, may or may not have income, the fact you need a job like yesterday may leave you in a position to beg to be hired. However understand you have to be ready for the moment. Get a good suit or outfit. Have at least 3 professional references. Be prepared for the interview, send a thank you note within 24 hours of the interview to each person and most importantly find a way to manager your stress while you continue to job search, you don't stop until you hear the words you are hired.

Half of the job search success is mental There are two ways you can go about your job search. You could sit at your computer and mechanically start sending out emails and applications, hoping that something you’ve thrown against the wall “sticks.” That’s OK—even the person using a shotgun approach will eventually hit something. Or you can take control. If your time is valuable to you make each moment of your job search efforts count. No one is going to hand you a job .

You only have two options folks when searching for work, (1) quit hunting or (2) fake a smile and be a professional. Times are hard but you have no time to feel sorry for yourself and grumble like a spoiled rich kid who didn't get what they wanted from Daddy Warbucks in "Annie". You can hate me for saying this but I want you all to have tough thick skin and move past your obstacles and accomplish the things that others were too afraid to do. I have problems and issues and people who want to see me fail and fall apart too. I am not giving them the satisfaction. Neither should you. People have this mentality that you should do as well as them but not better than them. Total B. S.!!! Who cares about them? It's your life and your dreams your goals your everything! Do better than yourself and others. I love you all! I am just like you. Problems with money, screaming people who hate you, (haters are fun to have which also means you are killing it and they are multi jealous of you!) rent, bills, etc. You got this! BELIEVE ACHIEVE AND BE READY TO RECEIVE!!!! I LOVE YOU ALL! GOD BLESS

What do you do when the only jobs in your area are retail and they won't touch you with a 10 foot pole because you are not an extrovert? Its getting frustrating. Only jobs are the retail jobs and thats it. I don't have an option to move to a different area with other job options. They ether don't hire me because I don't fit their personality test or they look at my education level and say you are to educated or we view you as a threat to our jobs as managers just based on education. That includes the food service end of retail.

Who cares my degrees are worthless degrees, the bottom fell out on the animation world, unless you have major industry experience when you graduate college and no one has that. Employers see MBAs as wasted degree now. As it does not prove you know a thing in their eyes.

People tell me to start a business, but that is not an option. No money and even if I did. My counties business regulations make it extremely hard and expensive to start one. (They wonder why they have 10+ percent unemployment rate here)

I am at my wits end.

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Our mental disposition is vital to the quality of our life, our relationships and the outcome of what we are trying to accomplish. It can mean the difference on whether or not we succeed with our daily activities. Ultimately, this includes our job seeking efforts and the quality and value that we offer as an employee.

Everyone faces any number of things everyday that can affect our mood. The heavy traffic of our morning commute, that unexpected home repair, a negative comment by a co-worker and the list continues.
How do we deal with it? Does it consume us. Do we find ourselves complaining? After all, it is normal to complain. Let us examine this behavior a bit closer.

Why do people complain? When most of us do it, the idea is to "vent." By getting our emotions out, we reason, we'll feel better.

But science suggests there are a few serious flaws in that reasoning. One, not only does expressing negativity tend not to make us feel better, it makes those listening feel worse. It sounds like a good idea, but it's dead wrong," psychologist Jeffrey Lohr, who has studied venting, explained.

Complaining is bad for your mood and the mood of your friends and colleagues, but that's not all that's wrong with frequent negativity. Apparently, it's also bad for your brain and your health.

Complaining not only alters your brain for the worse but also has serious negative repercussions for your mental health. In fact, complaining can literally kill you. Here are some of the ways that complaining harms your health:

• "Synapses that fire together wire together."

This is one of the first lessons neuroscience students learn, according to psychiatrist and author Steven Parton. "Throughout your brain there is a collection of synapses separated by empty space called the synaptic cleft. Whenever you have a thought, one synapse shoots a chemical across the cleft to another synapse, thus building a bridge over which an electric signal can cross, carrying along its charge the relevant information you're thinking about," Parton explains.

"Here's the kicker," he continues. "Every time this electrical charge is triggered, the synapses grow closer together in order to decrease the distance the electrical charge has to cross.... The brain is rewiring its own circuitry, physically changing itself, to make it easier and more likely that the proper synapses will share the chemical link and thus spark together in essence, making it easier for the thought to trigger."

In short that means, having a thought makes it easier for you to have that thought again. That's not good news for the perpetually gloomy. It gets worse, too. Not only do repeated negative thoughts make it easier to think yet more negative thoughts, they also make it more likely that negative thoughts will occur to you just randomly throughout your day. Another way to put this is that being consistently negative starts to push your personality towards the negative.

Parton explains how these closer synapses result in a generally more pessimistic outlook: "Through repetition of thought, you've brought the pair of synapses that represent your [negative] proclivities closer and closer together, and when the moment arises for you to form a thought...the thought that wins is the one that has less distance to travel, the one that will create a bridge between synapses fastest." Gloom soon outraces positivity.

• You are whom you hang out with.

Not only does hanging out with your own negative thoughts rewire your brain for negativity, hanging out with negative people does much the same. Why?

"When we see someone experiencing an emotion (be it anger, sadness, happiness, etc), our brain 'tries out' that same emotion to imagine what the other person is going through. And it does this by attempting to fire the same synapses in your own brain so that you can attempt to relate to the emotion you're observing. This is basically empathy. It is how we get the mob mentality.... It is our shared bliss at music festivals," Parton writes. "But it is also your night at the bar with your friends who love love love to constantly bitch."

The takeaway lesson is, if you want to strengthen your capacity for positivity and weaken your reflex for gloom, "surround yourself with happy people who rewire your brain towards love."

• Stress is terrible for your body, too.

All of which sounds like a good argument for staying away from negativity to protect your mental health, but Parton insists that quitting the complaining habit is essential for your physical health, too. "When your brain is firing off these synapses of anger, you're weakening your immune system; you're raising your blood pressure, increasing your risk of heart disease, obesity and diabetes, and a plethora of other negative ailments," he says.

The culprit is the stress hormone cortisol. When you're negative, you release it, and elevated levels of the stuff, "interfere with learning and memory, lower immune function and bone density, increase weight gain, blood pressure, cholesterol, heart disease.... The list goes on and on," says Parton.